Being perfectly imperfect

Start loving your body the way it is- be it big hips, fat thighs or a bulging paunch.
Being absolutely flawless is disturbing. Accept the way you look and work towards making it healthier. Don’t misinterpret the fact that healthy means being thin. But the desire for perfection should never go out of control. Rather to be perfectly imperfect is the trend.
ACCEPT YOUR BODY
Women should accept their body by giving themselves a lot of positive self talk; also one should be well aware of the good parts in their looks and highlight them.Just noticing the flaws and imperfection in oneself, makes one's mind a storehouse of negative beliefs. Says psychologist Varkha Chulani, “I think a large part of the body image comfort takes place as the child grows. An environment at home where fat is accepted and the child is given a sensible message of being nicely round helps right away. When the parents don’t make a big deal of ‘weight’ the child learns to accept it. But the problem starts when the child starts going to school and she goes through the tremendous peer pressure of being slim. It is during this time parents should reassure the child that body doesn’t define us. It is then the child understands how to like her body and accept it the way it is.”
DO NOT SET IMPOSSIBLE GOALS
We are born with a certain body type. There is nothing one can do to alter genetic predisposition. One has to accept and accentuate what one is gifted with. Again the home plays a very important role in that. So if for example the person is born with a pear shaped body, she will have to 'accept' it the way it is. It cannot be otherwise. Structure doesn't and cannot change. So the realistic goal would be to manage one's weight in that area (around the hips), dress accordingly, wear colors which flatter, etc.
STOP COMPARING YOURSELF WITH OTHERS
Suggests Varkha, “Do not allow your ideas to be determined by a society. Commonality of ideas doesn't make the idea true or healthy. One falls prey to pressure when one agrees with socially defined roles of what is 'good' or 'bad'. So stop subscribing to the nonsense that media, advertising feeds you with.”
Comparing with others is a normal phenomenon, but if we keep comparing with others all the time, it can have serious consequences. Sometimes comparison can be an act of violence against oneself. The more you compare, the more indicative it is of how much you hate yourself. To this psychologist Seema Hingorrany says, “One should try and indulge in many activities and enhance the creativity that they possess, telling them selves that they love themselves helps a lot. Many women who have been over weight since childhood carry low self-esteem problems, in that case they need to work more on their psychological impacts than weight. Comparing with others is a normal phenomenon, but if we keep comparing with others all the time, it can have serious consequences.”
Some people who are perfectionist do have a bit of narcissism streak in them and mostly they have inner conflicts about themselves which have never been resolved leading them to control everything around them .By coming to a resolution ,they start taking things in their stride.